If you could hear me talk you would hear triumphant in my tone, with a hint of stand back along with a passion for the brokenhearted impacted by divorce. The stories that I have heard have broken my own heart over and over and over again. I can’t seem to wrap my mind around the lengths that people go to, to hurt someone that they “once loved”. It is amazing that once a person finds someone else, then their basic human regard for their spouse goes out the window. I honestly can not comprehend it. Nothing can make infidelity right. Abandoning your family is not going to be understood on any level. Sooooooooooooooooooooo if you want to leave a person, fine but leave them with their dignity for God’s sake.
One lady that I met went to work one day. She came home and her husband had taken everything, but left her with only a 2- liter soda in the fridge and her clothes. He took the toilet paper, can goods, and every bed in the house! Another lady I met her husband had several other women on the side. My response to this story was “Girl didn’t you know?” She said, “I had no idea.” In my youth I would have said that she was stupid, but now that I have had my own life experience; I understand her because I had no idea! So he left her and their kids to be live his life as a womanizer. No one person is perfect in a relationship, but does a person deserve that?
As I am going through this part of my journey I am reminded that the pain of divorce runs deep but the betrayal and hurt from the actions of a person you were committed to run much deeper. My desire is to help this pain in some way. I pray God uses me to do that. Every story I hear startles me in a different way. At some point I guess I must get over the shock. I have heard of things that were done to people and even to me that I WOULD HAVE NEVER EVER THOUGHT TO DO TO ANOTHER HUMAN BEING! That statement is not coming from a goody-two-shoes place it is coming from a place of sincerity. There is a conscience in this writer. I want to be able to sleep at night.
My voice will help the healing. My voice will help the pain. My experience is going to encourage someone. God is going to see to it. I am a speaker, author, minister, and writer. It is what I was meant to do. I AM HERE FOR YOU.
Wisdom: My Pastor was preaching a couple of Sundays ago and he made a statement. He said, “Fast food is easy to come by. Everyone stands in line for it and sometimes the line wraps around the building.” My tag line to that: A home cooked meal, often gets left on the stove.”