divorced hearts mending

…allow it to happen.


December 2013

LGD: I Will Stand Anyway


Whoaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa 2013! It has been a year that has meant for me, pushing through. I have had to push through pain that would not show me any mercy. I have had to push through the chatter of doom to be able to see the promise of something extraordinary. Maybe you can probably identify with “the push” that I am speaking of. “The push” is that inner helping hand; and for some that hand has been the one thing that has helped pushed us from one moment to the next.

Nevertheless I’m standing anyway. I will stand anyway; and so will you. You will stand anyway because not standing is to kneel in surrender to life’s challenges. There will be more adversity so you might as well learn to flex the muscles of your prayer, faith, and perseverance. This Life-Giving Declaration allows you to speak life over your mind, your spirit, and your body when it wants to give up. You do have the power to stand anyway. Through all the confusion, the broken promises, perhaps a failed marriage, failed relationships, and even the frustration of the lack of progress. You can stand anyway.

Life and death lies in the power of your tongue. Be mindful of what your tongue confesses. Be mindful of what your tongue is willing to say about your situation. Train it to praise God and for it to speak life over you. You really can stand anyway.

Hebrews 12:12-13 NLT
“So take a new grip with your tired hands and strengthen your weak knees. Mark out a straight path for your feet so that those who are weak and lame will not fall but become strong.”


Wisdom For The Journey…


Wisdom is often under rated, under valued, and unused. It’s value is constantly ignored and forgotten. Most of us do not acknowledge the need for wisdom at all. What opposes that? MMMMMM–maybe its our intellect which seems to be one of the major inflations of our egos into thinking independently from wisdom. Intellect by definition is our faculty of reasoning. It can solve mathematical equations because it pulls from our knowledge bank. It is based on what we have learned or learning. Intellect’s job is to simply be a demonstrator of our accumulated knowledge. Attempting to use intellect to direct your life is dangerous because it has a very limited ability to do so. The need for you to prepare for what you can’t see is essential. Intellect is not physic. You need wisdom’s direction.

Wisdom is the quality of being wise. Wisdom cannot be minimized to a clever cliché. It’s far more than that. Wisdom sits alone far above any other thought process, looks high and low, assesses it all, and then directs a course of action. If you follow it, you will witness the unbelievable because wisdom’s advice prepares you for life’s next moment. Life’s next moments are birthed from the very decisions we are being advised to make by “somebody” or “something” everyday. Wisdom can foresee your future, and knows that if you continue to accept its advice, you-will-prosper-in-all-things.

The word of God says in Proverbs 2:2 Tune your ear to wisdom, and concentrate on understanding. Wisdom requires our attention. It wants to teach us something that none other can teach. Wisdom for each journey of life we embark is available. All we have to do is ask God for it. Divorcees we need wisdom. Mothers we need wisdom. Fathers we need wisdom. Friends we need wisdom. Your life needs wisdom. No other source has the power to give that. Ask God wisdom’s creator and know He is willing to give it to you.

It’s Cute Overload Top Ten Time!

Too cute! How can anything beat this?

…..The Journey After


Something that I have discovered about this blog and the Divorced Hearts Mending support group is that the focus is passionately fixed on the journey after the divorce that people experience. It seems simple but when I say that it encompasses much more than I can explain, or that comes to mind. It is that thing that you would not understand unless you have endured it. The journey after divorce requires that one travels through accepting divorce itself first, a new vision for their lives, self-reconstruction, self-acceptance, forgiveness and re-learning to love and trust. All of this is happening while life is going on and your mind, heart, and soul is stuck in what was, what was lost, and what you did or did not do wrong. It is liken to living in two different points of time, at one time.

The journey after begins immediately. Once you live one place and your ex lives another. Your back account is cut in half along with the time with your children. Your friends if they are still there, are divided on which side they will defend. Not to mention that your heart is divided into may pieces that include love-hate, failure-confusion, and loud-loneliness.

“Is anyone going to call”, I asked this question. “What are they going to say to you?” I pondered. Maybe its better they don’t say anything. Just one of my many self-conversations. My point? The journey after is a difficult one. Some days are good, some are bad. You will survive. You will thrive again. Your life will be fulfilled. Be encouraged that the journey after will happen and its unavoidable, but it is overcomeable! You must go through it to get to the other side on your life.

Get connected. Get supported. Give support.

Psalms 30:5 Weeping may endure for a night, but joy cometh in the morning.

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